12 Fashion Tips For The Rockstar Bartender
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12. Remember the essentials. Depending on the particular club, restaurant, or neighborhood bar you’re in, you might want to wear black on black. If you’re at a formal event, however, opt for black on white.
11. Know the difference between being well-dressed and being formal. Just because you’re wearing a suit or business casual doesn’t mean you’re being well-dressed. It means you’re being formal, but being well-dressed is something else altogether. Being well-dressed is about wearing clothes that fit your body and your personality, that are well-tailored and have exquisite detail, that stand out.
10. Monochromatic colors are powerful. Forget plaid and paisley — studies have shown that women wearing dresses of a single color (red, blue, green, yellow) are considered more attractive and consistently receiver higher tips.
9. Wear comfortable shoes. No one’s going to see you’re feet when you’re standing behind the bar. Given that you’re going to be on your feet for hours, it’s far better to wear comfortable shoes.
8. Fit is key. Clothes that fit your body will call attention to you, your body and your sense of style.
7. Details matter. Don’t forget some of the smaller things that can actually garner a lot of attention like the way you knot your tie, a scarf or a pocket square.
6. Show off the good stuff. Everyone of us has features that stand out – great eyes, nice butt, killer smile. Know what your greatest assets are and highlight them with the way you dress and way you interact with others.
5. Focus on looking good. Get manicures and your eyebrows waxed regularly, even if you’re a guy. You’d be amazed how much of a difference these two details make. Meanwhile, if you’re a girl, focus on wearing makeup. I know that point is obvious, but as this recent article in the New York Times explains, make up makes women appear more confident.
4. Pay attention to the details. Remember, the details (the quality of the stitching of your clothes, and the buttons) are where the difference is. Those who know quality in clothing immediately notice the little details. And that’s where you can tell well-made clothing from it’s cheaper counterpart.
3. Be different. If everyone is dressed business casual, wear a suit. If everyone is wearing a suit, wear an unusual one, or something else entirely. Be different, and you’ll stand out.
2. But don’t stand out too much. You should be different, but not that different. In other words, you should aim to be above average, not in another class entirely. Too much, and you’ll start to look like an attention whore. You’ll seem unattainable, and maybe even socially unaware.
1. Wear 3 “centerpieces” per outfit. In fashion, people often tend towards one extreme or another. Either, they have too many centerpieces, all competing with each other, making the look jumbled and gaudy. Or, what they’re wearing consists entirely of supporting pieces, which leads to a boring, monotonous look. Remember that, as in all things, you want to strive for balance. In every outfit, make sure to have 2-3 centerpieces — these are the absolute stars of your outfit, the things that make it pop — balanced and evened out by supporting pieces of consistent quality.
Some examples of centerpieces: anything that’s unusual, custom, or really stands out, whether it’s an amazing hair cut, necklaces, large rings, heavily embroidered t-shirts or jackets, tattoos, pendants, a pocket square, a studded leather jacket, etc.
Some examples of supporting pieces: anything that’s a fashion staple whether it’s a fine pair of boots, classy dress shoes, jeans, a white t-shirt, scarfs, dress shirts, a pea coat, quality well fitting pants, etc.
When purchasing new items, remember that your supporting pieces should be of consistent quality (think: the classics), while your centerpieces should be a notch above. And, when I say “a notch above” I don’t mean that they should just stand out. A shiny pendant does not a centerpiece make. But, if that same pendant is unusual in some way, speaks to your travels, or is finely crafted, then, by all means, go ahead. Think of your centerpieces as the items you save up for and dote over.